“Create A YouTube Channel” I said

For years, I have loved watching other people create funny, cute, inspiring videos and upload them to YouTube. This year, one of my resolutions was to “Create a YouTube Channel”. Keep in mind I’ve said this for years, but I’ve always been scared of what people would say, or I would give up because I didn’t know what to film. I’ve always wanted to be on the screen. So finally, I created my channel. I created it around January 8th, and about two months later, I have around 250 subscribers. HELL YEAAAHHHHHH. Okay, obviously not the highest number you’ve ever seen a youtuber have, but it’s something! I hope you guys want to join me on my YouTube experience by watching my videos and subscribing!

My YouTube Channel

 

Also, I suggest that if there is anything you’ve been wanting to do for a long time but have not gotten around to do it, DO IT. Stop pushing it away and start pulling it closer to you. It’ll just be the beginning and everything will only rise from here on out!

Xoxo, Courtney Leigh

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Four Months.

I know it has been four months, but I still look for you everywhere I go. Sometimes I feel like we could just pick up where we had left, right before we fought. We were bestfriends, but I guess if we were truly bestfriends, nothing would get in between us. So I guess we weren’t bestfriends, but it sure felt real. It felt like a breakup with a boyfriend, but worse because from my past experience,  I truly believe bestfriends are supposed to stick around for the rest of your life. One time I thought I saw you. My heart raced, I couldn’t think straight, and I began to panic. That’s when I realized it still hurts my heart. From the minute we met, I instantly fell in love with our friendship. You made me feel confident, happy, and safe with you. I wish I could say I still felt the same. It’s been four months since we last texted. It’s been four months since I’ve seen your smile. Late at night, I tend to think about our lost friendship. It’s been four months, and I still miss you. I know it could never be the same with us. I know that if we ever see each other in person again, we will probably look the other way. I know that we have become strangers with memories I will cherish for the rest of my life. Thanks for a great summer and thanks for the year of friendship, stranger. If only you knew I was thinking of you.

The Ultimate Checklist For Knowing If Your Friend Could Be More

It doesn’t matter if you guys are dating or not; This checklist will let you know if you’ve found someone that could possibly be THE ONE.

Everyone dreams of having the perfect guy/girl to eventually share their life with. So, if you’re already “sorta” sharing your life with a good friend, and want to know if he or she could possibly be more then just your good friend, here’s an ultimate checklist to check.

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You feel like yourself around him & you feel like you can always say what you’re feeling and can be yourself and not worry about him running away.

You respect each other Respect goes a long way in relationships. You respect that they sometimes can’t hang out, or are hanging out with other people, and you feel comfortable with the fact that you aren’t always around each other. This is really healthy for a relationship.

Every time you see each other, you guys light up I seriously mean “light up”! If everything just becomes brighter, such as, your mood, day, surroundings, his smile, etc, everything’s just perfect. If he lights up the moment you enter the room, all is well in the world.

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Although you guys are just friends, it already seems like you guys are in a relationship This is the first sign that “maybe, just maybe” you two would make a super cute couple! If people are even asking you if you guys are dating now, why not make it official, am I right? Lol. I know you think I’m right on this (;

You listen to each other Even if you don’t have the same opinion on something, you aren’t afraid to speak your mind! Also, when you do speak your mind, he listens! Listening is a key in relationships and helps you two connect!

You guys want to see each other Although you don’t always have to be together, you guys want to see each other! You get excited when you two can hangout!

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You both are able to share personal things and accept each other for who you are Although he’s seen you at your best, he’s also able to see you at your worst. You guys feel safe and comfortable around each other!

He compliments you Both Verbally and non verbally. Sometimes you notice that he’s looking at you. Sometimes he’ll even compliment you and tell you you’re pretty, or you don’t need any makeup to look good. He could either be super shy about his feelings for you or more outgoing with them. If he ever says “Any guy would be lucky to have you” just be like “Well aren’t you lucky…” because obviously you guys are meant to be. He clearly thinks you’re a prize that he’s not good enough for, but you can boost his confidence if you choose him.

You both love each other as friends  If you guys are loving the friendship, the personalities, the face, the person, and you have chemistry, GO FOR IT NOW!! Think about if you guys already love each other as friends, how much more it could be if you just loved each other in general.

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If someone came to your mind while you read this, I want you to think about what your guys’ potential could be! Clearly this person is worth holding onto, so why not try to make your bestfriend your boyfriend too? Having a best friend is an amazing feeling, and if you could have a combination of a boyfriend and bestfriend, why not?

 

 

 

New Year, New Realization

I’m about one week into the new year, and I’ve realized something that I think all girls should realize.

  • Each time we are interested in a guy, and we get up the courage to talk to that guy, we pretty much become invested in that one guy.

 

Well, being a girl who hasn’t been in a long relationship since three years ago, it was a little unusual for me to work up the courage to talk to a guy and show that I was interested in him. So when I actually worked up the courage to talk to this guy (lets give him the name “Lance”), and when we started talking, I was pretty excited (and a little shocked).

We talked for about two weeks until we had an “epic, spontaneous adventure” to Walmart for Black Friday. It was fun! One thing I forgot about myself whenever I’m starting to like someone is that I become super awkward and blush 24/7, but he didn’t seem to mind! A few days later, he asked me to go on a dinner date with him! So, reading this, you’d think things were going pretty smooth! So did I! We saw each other maybe once a week until about three weeks ago when he completely stopped asking me “what are you doing today? When are we going to hang”… There were no more “Hey! What time do you work til? 4 pm? Okay, I’m coming”…

About two weeks of no seeing each other went by, and I was getting annoyed, but I knew that we both went to different school and he was probably just busy!

Finally, we talked about everything.

“Courtney, you’re beautiful and so sweet and I’m interested in you, I just don’t know what I want right now”. WAIT? So i’ve wasted around TWO months talking to you, and you don’t know if you want a relationship….

What confused me more was that after Lance and I had our heart to heart, he began calling me beautiful all the time, texting me even more frequently, etc. I gave him one more week to see if things would change. They didn’t, and all the sudden (yesterday) he stopped talking to me completely, and I was just done with it. By this point, I already knew it was over, and honestly I felt worse leading up to talking to him about it then it actually happening and me telling him what’s up.

 

Last night (this is when we talked about it), I straight up said “Lance.. We’ve been talking for about two months, I like you. We are “talking”, right”? All I wanted to hear was “yes, we’re talking. I’m not ready for a relationship, but yeah we are talking because I like you and I think that this could lead into a relationship if we continue to talk”.

He straight up told me that he really likes me, but he isn’t sure if he wants a relationship, but he also doesn’t want to lead me on, and he told me I can continue to talk to him, but I can talk to other people too, but he wouldn’t say that continuing to talk to him would lead into a relationship with him, so ever since that conversation, I have stopped talking to him.

I don’t technically feel happy about this, because I did like him and I wanted to get to know him better and see where it could go. But, I do feel happy with the fact that I believe that I learned a valuable lesson through all this.

I finally feel ready to date again. For the longest time after my breakup of a year, I’ve felt like no one would like me. Since I have put myself out there. and it sort of worked for awhile, I feel safe to say I am ready to start showing interest in guys when I feel the need!

I’ve learned that I want someone who knows what they want and I want someone who is straight forward with me from the beginning.

I am definitely seeing this as a learning experience and I know all things happen for a reason.

I don’t see this as an end to something but just a step in the right direction!!

Also, Thank you “Lance” for showing me what I’m looking more in a guy! You honestly could’ve been a great boyfriend, but that’s okay! Maybe you’ll realize that with the next girl that comes in your life! This clearly just means you weren’t the right guy for me, and that’s okay!

 

XOXO, Courtney Leigh

 

 

 

Get the Guy to Take you to the Dance

If you are the type of girl who’s a little more shy then the girls who can easily tell a guy she wants him to take her to “the dance”(or wherever, this is just my example), then you’re at the right place!

Being a girl, I think it is so nerve racking and hard to tell a guy you like him/ want him to take you to a dance/ go on a date! So here are some ways to tell him, but not have to actually straight up “tell him”.. This way it’s less nerve racking.  Obviously telling a guy you like him is definitely the best way to get the guy to take you to the “dance”, but if you’re too shy to do that, I have steps to take if Plan A is not your strong suit!

Plan A Straight up tell him you like him. You’ll get a straight forward response with your straight forward message. 🙂

Not your strong suit? Take these simple steps!

Step 1 Start hinting! “You know, I’d love for someone to take me to this dance”… Or “I think I’m only going to go if someone takes me”… This will catch his ear. “Wait, she’s only going if someone takes her? Could that be me”?

Step 2 Ask him if he’s going and about who he is taking to the dance.. “Why is she asking me if I’m going, and why would she care who I was taking to the dance”? HIS BRAIN IS PROCESSING THIS.

Step 3 Be a little flirty! Give sweet compliments! Ask him if he can dance! “You look cute”! “I wanna see if you can dance”!

Step 4 Talk about going to homecoming to your friends when he’s around, and mention things like “I really do want someone to take me”…

By this point, he should understand that you want him to take you! If he still isn’t processing this, joke around and be like “It’d be so fun if we went to the dance together”! If he’s like “WHAT?!” you can always be like “Just kidding” or something…

I hope this helped! Leave some advice if you have other ways to “get the guy”! Meanwhile, lets see cute ways guys have asked girls to dances!

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Did I just die from cuteness? The answer is yes…

What Girls Should Look For In a Guy/Relationship

Considering I’m a girl, I feel like It’s my “rightful duty” to give my opinion on what girls should look for in a guy! Before I begin, I’m not ashamed to say I’m a little picky when it comes to guys.. In all honesty, I have dated three guys, my longest relationship being 11 months and my shortest being 3 days (I know, big differences). I’m also not ashamed to say that my guinea pig (Shortcake) is sitting with me as I type this. 🙂

 

Common Interests I think it’s important to have common interests because doing things you both love and doing them together can really add to a relationship. Don’t get me wrong though, differences can be very good too, and can keep the couple interested and always ready to explore more with one another! So girls, definitely see if there are any commonalities, because it’s nice to be able to hold a conversation about something you’re also interested in.

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Commitment If you notice that the guy you’re interested in is talking to multiple girls at once, he’s probably not the right guy for you. You want to be able to trust your boyfriend, and you can’t do that if you don’t believe he could stay committed to you and only talk to you in a romantic way. Now, this doesn’t mean he can’t have girl-friends and not talk to anyone of the opposite sex, this just means you need to trust him! If he believes he can hold hands, text flirtatiously, and flirt with other girls while in a relationship with you, he not the guy. Go find one that’s interested in you and only you, because no girl deserves that.

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Respect A guy should respect you 100%. If you don’t want to do something, he should understand. If you feel uncomfortable holding his hand just yet, he should give you the time you need to feel comfortable. If  a guy ever gets upset with you for not wanting to do anything, he doesn’t deserve you. I believe respect is one of the top 5 things you must have in a relationship.

Positive Attitude You should want to be around someone who puts you in a good mood! Their positivity should want you to be more positive!

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Encouragement   He needs to be encouraging you in whatever you decide to do in life!

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Personality Personality is key!! Okay.. We’ve all been there. We fell for a guy only for their looks. DON’T GET MESMERIZED BY HIS EYES! He probably gets mesmerized by his own eyes…. Make sure he has a personality you like before you even think about getting into a relationship with him!

 

Super important: Chemistry If he makes you laugh, smile, feel all giddy, gives you butterflies, fireworks go off when you kiss, that’s chemistry, and that is something you should have when in a relationship! If you’re not sure you have chemistry with this guy or can’t seem to figure out if you like this guy more then just friends, ask yourself “When we are apart, am I excited to see him again”? “Is he always on my mind”?  Maybe asking yourself these questions will help you realize what you really want!

 

I know I’ve missed out on things girls should look for in guys/relationships!

What do you look for? Comment below I’d love feedback!

XOXO, Courtney Leigh