I know it has been four months, but I still look for you everywhere I go. Sometimes I feel like we could just pick up where we had left, right before we fought. We were bestfriends, but I guess if we were truly bestfriends, nothing would get in between us. So I guess we weren’t bestfriends, but it sure felt real. It felt like a breakup with a boyfriend, but worse because from my past experience, I truly believe bestfriends are supposed to stick around for the rest of your life. One time I thought I saw you. My heart raced, I couldn’t think straight, and I began to panic. That’s when I realized it still hurts my heart. From the minute we met, I instantly fell in love with our friendship. You made me feel confident, happy, and safe with you. I wish I could say I still felt the same. It’s been four months since we last texted. It’s been four months since I’ve seen your smile. Late at night, I tend to think about our lost friendship. It’s been four months, and I still miss you. I know it could never be the same with us. I know that if we ever see each other in person again, we will probably look the other way. I know that we have become strangers with memories I will cherish for the rest of my life. Thanks for a great summer and thanks for the year of friendship, stranger. If only you knew I was thinking of you.
It doesn’t matter if you guys are dating or not; This checklist will let you know if you’ve found someone that could possibly be THE ONE.
Everyone dreams of having the perfect guy/girl to eventually share their life with. So, if you’re already “sorta” sharing your life with a good friend, and want to know if he or she could possibly be more then just your good friend, here’s an ultimate checklist to check.
You feel like yourself around him & you feel like you can always say what you’re feeling and can be yourself and not worry about him running away.
You respect each other Respect goes a long way in relationships. You respect that they sometimes can’t hang out, or are hanging out with other people, and you feel comfortable with the fact that you aren’t always around each other. This is really healthy for a relationship.
Every time you see each other, you guys light up I seriously mean “light up”! If everything just becomes brighter, such as, your mood, day, surroundings, his smile, etc, everything’s just perfect. If he lights up the moment you enter the room, all is well in the world.
Although you guys are just friends, it already seems like you guys are in a relationship This is the first sign that “maybe, just maybe” you two would make a super cute couple! If people are even asking you if you guys are dating now, why not make it official, am I right? Lol. I know you think I’m right on this (;
You listen to each other Even if you don’t have the same opinion on something, you aren’t afraid to speak your mind! Also, when you do speak your mind, he listens! Listening is a key in relationships and helps you two connect!
You guys want to see each other Although you don’t always have to be together, you guys want to see each other! You get excited when you two can hangout!
You both are able to share personal things and accept each other for who you are Although he’s seen you at your best, he’s also able to see you at your worst. You guys feel safe and comfortable around each other!
He compliments you Both Verbally and non verbally. Sometimes you notice that he’s looking at you. Sometimes he’ll even compliment you and tell you you’re pretty, or you don’t need any makeup to look good. He could either be super shy about his feelings for you or more outgoing with them. If he ever says “Any guy would be lucky to have you” just be like “Well aren’t you lucky…” because obviously you guys are meant to be. He clearly thinks you’re a prize that he’s not good enough for, but you can boost his confidence if you choose him.
You both love each other as friends If you guys are loving the friendship, the personalities, the face, the person, and you have chemistry, GO FOR IT NOW!! Think about if you guys already love each other as friends, how much more it could be if you just loved each other in general.
If someone came to your mind while you read this, I want you to think about what your guys’ potential could be! Clearly this person is worth holding onto, so why not try to make your bestfriend your boyfriend too? Having a best friend is an amazing feeling, and if you could have a combination of a boyfriend and bestfriend, why not?
It all begins when you begin to walk. Your parents begin to question “what’s their next step”? They soon send us off to daycare, and before you know it, you’re in pre-school, next to kindergarten, and in a blink of an eye, you’re leaving to go to High school. Four years. Four years to make a name for yourself in your town.
Freshman year: You’re told that every year counts, make good grades, do all your homework. You listen, but you’re not listening because you’re looking at your surroundings, terrified of all the new faces staring back at you. “What did the teacher say? Do these girls like me? Do I fit in? Do the guys notice me”? You seem to be very shy, very quiet. Very intimidated by the pretty girls… That is Freshman Year
Sophomore year: You’re beginning to find the people you like to hangout with. You attend all the school sport games to support the cute guy players and your new friends who play. You think about joining some sports. You don’t try out for any. You make working out a priority, which is an amazing journey for you. You’re still very quiet, but you begin to break out of your shell. You branch out more, meet more people, discover who you like and dislike. You’re proud of yourself. You stop eating all the junk food. You go to sleepovers. You’re happier…. That is Sophomore Year.
Junior Year: You are happy. You smile so much more. You workout almost everyday, eat better (besides chocolate). You have found your friends, and are still making friends along the way! You love watching shows on Netflix. You begin to hear teachers talk about tests you have to take. You take the ACTs and SATs. You go on vacation with your closest friends for Spring Break. You spend all your weekends with your best friend since 2 years old…. That is your Junior year.
Senior Year: You made it. You’ve also flourished into a social butterfly. Everyone thinks your super sweet and funny and great. You’re happy. You’re so freaked out about applying to colleges. You visit UNCC and love the campus, but hate your moms warning about being away from home. She wants you to stay close to home. You are scared to leave highschool. You are scared of failure to be accepted into college. You are scared. You got your first real job as a cashier. You are making friends everywhere. You get super freaked out about if you and your bestfriend will go to the same school. You don’t want to lose her. You are only less then 9 weeks into your senior year…. This is your Senior year so far.
Life goes by quick. Live to the fullest. I’m scared of my future ahead, but I’m excited. I know everything is meant to be, and I will find my way. This was actually more about my experience in highschool, and what is going on right now. Thank you for reading ❤
XoXO, Courtney Leigh
If you are the type of girl who’s a little more shy then the girls who can easily tell a guy she wants him to take her to “the dance”(or wherever, this is just my example), then you’re at the right place!
Being a girl, I think it is so nerve racking and hard to tell a guy you like him/ want him to take you to a dance/ go on a date! So here are some ways to tell him, but not have to actually straight up “tell him”.. This way it’s less nerve racking. Obviously telling a guy you like him is definitely the best way to get the guy to take you to the “dance”, but if you’re too shy to do that, I have steps to take if Plan A is not your strong suit!
Plan A Straight up tell him you like him. You’ll get a straight forward response with your straight forward message. 🙂
Not your strong suit? Take these simple steps!
Step 1 Start hinting! “You know, I’d love for someone to take me to this dance”… Or “I think I’m only going to go if someone takes me”… This will catch his ear. “Wait, she’s only going if someone takes her? Could that be me”?
Step 2 Ask him if he’s going and about who he is taking to the dance.. “Why is she asking me if I’m going, and why would she care who I was taking to the dance”? HIS BRAIN IS PROCESSING THIS.
Step 3 Be a little flirty! Give sweet compliments! Ask him if he can dance! “You look cute”! “I wanna see if you can dance”!
Step 4 Talk about going to homecoming to your friends when he’s around, and mention things like “I really do want someone to take me”…
By this point, he should understand that you want him to take you! If he still isn’t processing this, joke around and be like “It’d be so fun if we went to the dance together”! If he’s like “WHAT?!” you can always be like “Just kidding” or something…
I hope this helped! Leave some advice if you have other ways to “get the guy”! Meanwhile, lets see cute ways guys have asked girls to dances!
Did I just die from cuteness? The answer is yes…
Considering I’m a girl, I feel like It’s my “rightful duty” to give my opinion on what girls should look for in a guy! Before I begin, I’m not ashamed to say I’m a little picky when it comes to guys.. In all honesty, I have dated three guys, my longest relationship being 11 months and my shortest being 3 days (I know, big differences). I’m also not ashamed to say that my guinea pig (Shortcake) is sitting with me as I type this. 🙂
Common Interests I think it’s important to have common interests because doing things you both love and doing them together can really add to a relationship. Don’t get me wrong though, differences can be very good too, and can keep the couple interested and always ready to explore more with one another! So girls, definitely see if there are any commonalities, because it’s nice to be able to hold a conversation about something you’re also interested in.
Commitment If you notice that the guy you’re interested in is talking to multiple girls at once, he’s probably not the right guy for you. You want to be able to trust your boyfriend, and you can’t do that if you don’t believe he could stay committed to you and only talk to you in a romantic way. Now, this doesn’t mean he can’t have girl-friends and not talk to anyone of the opposite sex, this just means you need to trust him! If he believes he can hold hands, text flirtatiously, and flirt with other girls while in a relationship with you, he not the guy. Go find one that’s interested in you and only you, because no girl deserves that.
Respect A guy should respect you 100%. If you don’t want to do something, he should understand. If you feel uncomfortable holding his hand just yet, he should give you the time you need to feel comfortable. If a guy ever gets upset with you for not wanting to do anything, he doesn’t deserve you. I believe respect is one of the top 5 things you must have in a relationship.
Positive Attitude You should want to be around someone who puts you in a good mood! Their positivity should want you to be more positive!
Encouragement He needs to be encouraging you in whatever you decide to do in life!
Personality Personality is key!! Okay.. We’ve all been there. We fell for a guy only for their looks. DON’T GET MESMERIZED BY HIS EYES! He probably gets mesmerized by his own eyes…. Make sure he has a personality you like before you even think about getting into a relationship with him!
Super important: Chemistry If he makes you laugh, smile, feel all giddy, gives you butterflies, fireworks go off when you kiss, that’s chemistry, and that is something you should have when in a relationship! If you’re not sure you have chemistry with this guy or can’t seem to figure out if you like this guy more then just friends, ask yourself “When we are apart, am I excited to see him again”? “Is he always on my mind”? Maybe asking yourself these questions will help you realize what you really want!
I know I’ve missed out on things girls should look for in guys/relationships!
What do you look for? Comment below I’d love feedback!
XOXO, Courtney Leigh
I realize you guys don’t know me well enough yet, but this is something that happens to me a lot. “Awkward experiences with guys”. Luckily, I’m able to laugh about these things..
When it comes to guys, I’m pretty awkward myself, but now that I think about it, I’m only awkward because what they sometimes say make me VERY uncomfortable. I’m gonna split these “‘Super awk experiences” up to where each blog I post about these, it’ll be in one place each.
SPRING BREAK BABES
My Junior year Spring Break, I went to the beach with a few of my closest friends. We walk into a little shop on the boardwalk around 10:00pm, and talk up a storm with the girl working there. 30 minutes go by and some super cute guys walk in, and before we know it, we’re talking to them too. So the worker starts talking about how she has a taser (cool story bro), and how people ask if she can taser them (cool story bro, again). So this guy tells his friend “dude you gotta do it”, and the super cute guy is like “Okay dude”. So as she is about to tase him, he backs out (this back and forth thing goes on for about 30 minutes). So, I’m over here minding my own business, when the worker and ALL MY FRIENDS decide to use me as a prize? “dude, if you get tased, you can have her number! You don’t want to let her down, do you”? THANKS GUYS. 5 minutes later, he gets tazed (he gets no number).
Embarrassing enough? Think again.
Again, we are walking through the boardwalk, as we were passing by a huge group of black guys, along with a few cops. With cops very close by, we had no problem walking by the huge group of guys because “why would anyone do/say anything inappropriate with the possibility of getting in trouble”? Being the only one out of my friend group with a very short walking stride, I was falling behind all of my friends. As I’m about to leave the area of guys, I sense one approaching me. “bigger strides, bigger strides. Don’t make eye contact, don’t scream”….. A little black guy, (shorter then me, and I’m 5″3) who looked around 30 years old, came up to me, got in my face and goes “Hey little white girl, you like some chocolate” (obviously referring to himself)?!!!!?????!??!?!?!?!!?!?!?! I looked straight ahead and almost yelled “NO”. That, my friends, was the first and only time I’ve ever said no to chocolate.
Of course, all my friends had turned to see this whole thing happen, and we died laughing all the way back to the hotel. To this day, I haven’t lived it down. They literally tell everyone about it. Not lying. Everyone.
Once again, we were walking on the boardwalk, and I spotted two really hot twins. I had my Nikon camera with me, and as we were passing by where these twins were, one of them looked at me and was like “are you here to take my picture”? I laughed and said no… (I regret my decision very badly). Then he says “I can take my shirt off if you want”??? Do you know what my response was??? I LAUGHED AND WALKED AWAY, because I didn’t hear him. All my friends wanted to literally kill me, and once again, I haven’t lived this down. They all think I can’t hear anything, and I agree. So ladies and gentlemen, please keep open ears always and say yes to shirtless guys (only to some things though).
So these three lovely stories happened over spring break (along with some more guy experiences, but they were much better, so no need to blog about them), and I hope you’ll give this a nice thumbs up if you guys want to hear more extremely awkward stories.
XOXO, Courtney Leigh
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